Is it commitment “issues” or out of alignment?
Hi loves,
I am excited to get into this one— I know many have “pondered” on this topic (including myself) and I trust this gifts you with clarity.
Throughout my life, I questioned if I had “commitment issues” and, it wasn’t something that I had thought about until (I unintentionally allowed) others peoples opinions to enter my field, where I began to question it.
Why haven’t I committed to this person? This project? This job? Etc.
And there’s only one answer if you’re asking yourself this: because you don’t want to…
I had always been a “feel it, follow it” type of woman. If something felt correct for me, regardless of what it is, then I’d follow it. This could be quitting a job, hopping on a plane, moving away with my partner, parting ways with a partner or any relationship, buying a home, moving to another country, having an “last minute” event, etc.— regardless of what is has been, anything I have followed has been from a Knowing within. Anything I have followed from the ‘outside’ has led me on a journey— a detour— of learning to trust myself again (and more deeply this time around). It has also been quite traumatizing too. Yes, traumatizing. When you don’t listen to yourself, you are silently saying “I don’t trust you” and trusting the part of you that Knows is everything.
What I’ve learned is very simple.
If you haven’t committed to something or someone, it is because you don’t want to.
It is because something is telling you otherwise. Something.
Not someone. Be mindful if it’s someone telling you about your life and what you feel. When there is something that says no, trust it.
There is no need for story. If you don’t want to, that’s okay. Just being honest with that part gifts much freedom and space to then understand why. :) And, you don’t need to know why before you make a decision.
With Love and Prayers Over Your Path,
Brittany
