The Heartbreak No One Talks About…
No one talks about the heartbreak and grief for those you love having in your life yet know you aren’t to continue with in the current way…
When two people part ways not because they had to yet because they chose to. This doesn’t mean something happened or something is wrong. It means they honor each others Soul.
When people don’t talk anymore, it isn’t because xyz.
Let’s normalize healthy relationships and parting. It doesn’t have to be sour. It can be bitter and sweet.
During my parents divorce, my dad would always invite my mom over. She was never excluded or cut out— and if/when she overstepped a boundary, that’s when friction formed.
People would wonder why my mom was there and I never thought anything of it not realizing— others were going based on what they thought was normal or what was “the right thing to do” in their eyes.
Well, if two people parting is more healthy for the children and overall family system versus them staying together— part.
If something is right in your eyes, is it your eyes or your head? And where does the heart go into play here?
The culture we currently live in may think something is right yet what do you know to be true and correct? I feel there’s so much separation yet if we can hold our own shit, we wouldn’t be so separate. We wouldn’t blame another or feel the need to create separation with our own personal agenda’s unconsciously…
One of my anchors is: How May I be contributing to the separation in the world— starting with myself? Starting with my family system? Starting with xyz. How are you creating separation and being so honest with yourself about that.
It’s conscious relationship. Conscious disconnecting. Consciously letting go. Healthy relationship. We can play any label we’d like on it. At the end of it, just because you chose to let go doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt or it hurts less. It actually, more often times than not, hurts more. Because you’ve gotta be with the part that questions why and what if etc. When things are great and good, etc. it doesn’t always mean its correct. You’ve really gotta be in touch with your Soul for this one.
You don’t always have to part when things are toxic. Oftentimes, that’s what people are accustomed too and it’s easier that way— it’s what feels more safe to make it vicious and cold when, your hearts going to hurt at night and that will equate to sleepless nights when you didn’t do correct by another. That’s what haunts you— not them.
